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Everyone knows that marriage is supposed to be a sacred bond, so why is the divorce rate so high and what exactly can be done when you want to get back together and save your marriage?
Let's face it, we are not all created equal when we decide to take the plunge and marry that sweetheart we've been dating for awhile. Often times after the honeymoon is over for awhile, things between the two of you start a long downward spiral that seems impossible to stop.
Here are things to do either ahead of a breakup or even after one that will help save your marriage or even if you haven't even gotten married yet, will help to keep you together when you are married.
First, assuming that you are married and still together but maybe having a few problems now and then, one of the biggest things that will make all the difference in the world is good communication with your spouse.
Notice I said GOOD? Find things to compliment the other on and when things seem to be headed towards an argument, take a break until you cool off then without talking, just simply touch your spouse gently on the shoulder or reach out and hold the others hand lightly. This touch will bring forth positive energy between the two of you and really help save your marriage before it's too late.
Secondly, learn how to talk to each other without criticism. Even though you want to tell them off big time, and tell them how wrong they are, you should NOT criticize but instead simply say gently, "Look, I know we don't agree on this but maybe if we talk it out reasonably we can find some middle ground that we both can live with."
Third, when having a conversation, listen to what the other person is saying and repeat the words back to them like, "I heard you say that" - then repeat back to them what they just said - "is that correct?" Then it will be the other persons turn to repeat back what you just said. This establishes and ensures that communications are heard and understood by both individuals involved in the conversation.
Here's the bottom line. You promised to Love, Honor and Obey for better or worse, in sickness and health, so help you God. It is your duty, honor and privilege to save your marriage at all costs. Remember, it is extremely humbling to the other person when they are forgiven for something they did that resulted in your marriage problems.
Proper communication skills along with being reasonable about the others needs without thinking only of yourself will go a long way in helping to save your marriage or troubled relationship.
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